These sorts of comments irritate the fuck out of me, for
several reasons.
First because most times it simply isn’t true, they are having a knee jerk reaction to an incident where they feel their trust was betrayed. Many people who shout about ‘never trusting again’ fall into this category, and they will repeat this cycle: trust, become ‘betrayed’, shout on high about how they will never trust again.
Secondly these statements bother me because they are so thoroughly stupid things to say. (Even if you are not actually going to follow through with it.) I understand that people saying this have been hurt, but to say they will never trust again is foolish. It is in effect saying ‘in response to being hurt I shall emotionally cripple myself, forever.’ We humans are social beings who interact on an emotional level, which requires trust to be fulfilling. If you have no fulfilling relationships due to lack of trust you probably are not going to be happy. So you are in essence saying ‘I want to be miserable forever’ in response to this relatively fleeting moment.
Thirdly, frequently the problem here isn’t actually trusting people; it is the ‘betrayed’ person’s lack of ability to judge someone else’s character. You believed that they were worthy of your trust and they weren’t. Rather than accept the responsibility of your own poor judgment you scapegoat it to all mankind being untrustworthy. Bullshit.
And finally, very rarely, sometimes someone trustworthy betrays a trust; for whatever reason. They may be trustworthy and this is an aberration. If that is the case then forgive them and move on.
Regardless, put on your big boy/girl pants and fucking deal with it like an adult. Realize that we are all dealing with the human condition here, and mistakes will be made, by everyone. Also while you are remembering things - remember that shouting on high about ‘ I’ll never trusting again’ makes you look like a whiny moron with the emotional maturity of a stoned teenager.
-off
DH8
(NOTE: In some circumstances the person shouting about
having their trust betrayed is actually the person who is the problem. This is
rarer and these folks are fairly toxic individuals to be around. They are by
and large people who use others and pull out the ‘betrayed my trust card’
whenever people catch on to their bullshit and refuse to be used any longer. I tend
not to be friends with these people and when I lose these ‘friendships’ I usually
tend to be better off.)
